How can you improve your relationship?
Why not let go of your attachment to your own “right” way and open yourself to your partner’s perspective?
It can be fun, you might learn something, and your partner will love you for it.
Archive for August, 2010
Do You Want To Be Right…Or Happy?
Tuesday, August 31st, 2010Gardens and Relationships
Tuesday, August 31st, 2010Your relationship with your partner can be like a garden. It can become polluted with undesireable weeds – resentments, confusion, conflicting issues, “hot buttons”, and the like. Do you wonder if you should take the effort to eliminate those undesireables, or do you feel it is easier to plow up the whole garden and end the relationship?
Here are some perspectives to think about.
How Can You Show Your Love?
Monday, August 30th, 2010This may seem like a total exaggeration, but I think you’ll find truth in this in many cases.
Many people (me included) get wrapped up in life, busy with schedules and work, and forget to show their life-partner that they love him/her. It’s true, isn’t it?
Our lack can be easy to justify:
- “I’m too busy”
- “I forget sometimes”
- “We have schedules where we don’t see each other much”
- “I don’t know how”
- “I’m just not that kind of person”
- or the classic “I told you 20 years ago that I love you. If anything changes, I’ll let you know.”
Feeble excuses that can cause dramatic and undesireable results. Although if everyone was really good at showing their affection, Carol and I would have to find new work – there would be no demand for relationship coaching.
I’m curious to know how you show your love to your mate. Is it in ways you think? Do you do something unique and special? Are there certain words you use that indicate your feelings?
I invite you to send me a note with your ideas, either what you do now or what you could do. If I get enough responses, I’ll create a top 10 list to share.
