A Simple Habit Formula To Transform Your Life

I have a bundle of habits that rule my life.  So do you. If you think about your brain as a computer, this bundle of habits is an amazing operating system that makes much of life easy.  It operates in the background and does calculations and tasks so you can focus your attention on activities… Read more »

1% Victories for Relationship Excellence

“How can I fix my relationship?” We hear this regularly in phone calls, emails, and from coaching clients. Unfortunately, a relationship is not like a car, where you fix it by putting in new spark plugs, changing the brake pads, or installing a new sensor.  That said, I know some people who would graphically tell… Read more »

Love That You Can’t Buy, Thank God For Kids

The Oak Ridge Boys.  Remember them? An amazing country-gospel group of guys that continue to make fabulous music.  You might remember, “Elvira – oom-pappa-oom-pappa-oom-pappa-mow-mow” At this time of year, I find myself singing their song, “Thank God For Kids.” For some reason, the words send shivers up my spine and tears flow.  I think it’s… Read more »

7 Steps to Fight Fairly: aka Reframe the Fight to Make it Right

Does the relationship game need to include fighting, battling, and arguing?  Those aren’t great ways to build trust. As coaches, we regularly receive inquiries such as (taken directly from emails): “We need to learn to fight fair.” “We’re struggling with the battles.” “How can we fight and get the best outcome?” A phrase rushes through… Read more »

One Phrase Guaranteed to Enhance Your Relationships

Do you want to build trust and enhance your relationships in your community, workplace, intimate relationship, and even with yourself? All of the people we coach would answer a very loud and strong, “yes.” Focus on what’s strong; rather than what’s wrong.  That’s all that is required. Last spring, I met Peter Kenyon from Australia… Read more »

How Does Neuroscience Affect Your Relationships?

What is the most foundational component that affects your relationships? Trust. Yeah, I’ve written many times before about it and it is equally important now. Trust is the foundation for every relationship, in every area of your life, including your relationship with yourself. The only way to create a more satisfying, fun, fulfilling, and successful… Read more »

Do You Play These 6 Chords To Make Your Relationship A Classic?

Classic relationship

At Connections Coffee House in Sangudo, Carol regularly arranges for musicians to perform evening shows. Naturally, there are wonderful songs filled with beautiful chords, and many of them are about relationships. Most times, we have the extreme honour to host these talented people at our home – to provide them with accommodations and meals until… Read more »

How To Get De-befuddled: And the results when you do

Ever been in one of those befuddled places in your life? Confused Uncertain Overwhelmed Drained Withdrawn In a rut Dang, it can be … uncomfortable, scratchy, prickly. And it affects everything – family, work, community. It can be a negative spiral, leading to apathy, resentment, bit…iness, resistance. Yuck!! OK, don’t go there now. If you… Read more »

Punishment By Love

Weird title, isn’t it? My friend, Darrel, shared a story about a nomadic tribe of people in Africa. In many circles, this tribe would be labelled “uncivilized.” They live in a harsh environment, hunting and gathering much as they have lived for centuries. Uncivilized? Maybe in some ways, because the modern conveniences you and I… Read more »

When Life Sucks …??

Ever felt stuck in your life, not sure what to do or where to go? Maybe even now? I don’t mean that you don’t have things to do. Most people I know share with me that they are incredibly busy. What I mean is that what you’re doing just doesn’t feel meaningful, purposeful and contributing in… Read more »