Have you ever gone on a holiday without your partner? How did your partner feel about it? When coaching couples, there is often resentment when one person goes on a holiday (with family or friends) and the other stays at home. Our perspective is that it is super healthy to have your time apart. The… Read more »
Tag: Carol Ohler
Ego or Spirit: Which Do You Employ?
Yup, you likely know there are two parts of your mind that direct your thoughts, words, and behaviour: Ego or Spirit. If you’re like me and most other people, you’ve had times (maybe lots of them) when you reacted to a situation with your sweetie, said something, and then almost instantly wished like heck you… Read more »
6 Tips To Expand The Love: & reduce conflict
In the 20+ years Carol and I have been working with couples, we’ve not yet had a couple come to us saying, “We have an incredible relationship, filled with love, joy, happiness, and contentment. We want to expand the love even more.” We’ve not had that – yet. Maybe you and your partner will be… Read more »
Make Time For Fun
There is always work and other life distractions. In the midst of it all isn’t it time for you, as a couple, to make time for fun? We invite you to join our conversation! It seems we must “make” the time, otherwise it won’t magically show up. This takes more than awareness, it takes action. … Read more »
Celebrate The Great Things
Sh….. happens!! It is too easy to focus on that, rather than to celebrate the great things. Every couple we coach has, and is, doing simple daily things that allow them to exist and usually thrive. By taking time to acknowledge and celebrate those things, the less-than stuff becomes less important, or falls away. Now,… Read more »
Vulnerability Is A Life Foundation
Until you have practiced with vulnerability, it can be dang uncomfortable. Yet vulnerability is a life foundation – a key to experiencing long-term joy, happiness, and fulfillment in your relationship. Brene Brown describes the challenge and the rewards in this TED Talk. It is 20 minutes well worth your time. What, specifically, are you going… Read more »
Do I Want To Be Right? Or Happy?
Those are loaded questions, aren’t they. Do I want to be right? Or happy? We regularly find ourselves in situations of defensiveness (with a heavy dose of ego attachment) where we forget to remind ourselves of these questions. Does it happen to you? If you say, “no”, I’m guessing you spoof about other things too. This… Read more »
Weathering The Storms In Your Relationship
If you’ve been in your relationship for more than a few weeks, you’ll know that it is not always “sunny days.” Like the weather, there are storms in your relationship. For long-term success, it is critical to have plans, systems, and strategies to move through the storms calmly, kindly, and respectfully with your long-term vision… Read more »
Mentoring Magic – Secret Shared By Others
Life is about Relationships, yet those are tough to navigate on our own. A tool we call Mentoring Magic can help you (and me) to ask questions, listen, and learn what works – and what does not. Ultimately, you get to choose what to apply and what to set aside. As with all things in… Read more »
Give Change A Chance
Right now, we ponder, “what do we need if we must evacuate” (wildfires a few miles away). I’m reminded of the power of our relationship. When we are strong together, we can adapt, support ourselves and others, and definitely give change (and love) a chance. Life is an experiment. Some experiments give us the results… Read more »
