I once read, “We value ourselves by our intentions. Others value us by our impact.” Hmmm? It’s the gap between that often causes challenges, isn’t it? Example: Recently, Carol and I were debriefing after a couples coaching session – a lively celebratory dialogue. Carol began to apologize for her interjection into the flow of the… Read more »
Tag: Conflict Resolution
Forgiveness: The only real job you and I have
Forgiveness is art and a science. Art because it takes creativity. Science because if stimulates physiological and neurological healing and change. That aside, I believe in my deepest core that forgiveness is the most important and meaningful task you and I have in our lives. Why? Forgive is for-giving love I’m not a religious guy. … Read more »
Clarity Creates Confidence; Confusion Causes Chaos
I invite you to read the title one more time. I invite you to consider how clarity and confusion affect your relationship with your partner at home. Is the statement true for you? Carol and I attended a workshop which focused on creating an accountable workplace culture. Accountability expert, Greg Bustin, shared many gems, such… Read more »
Finally Retired, And Now You Want A Divorce???
Divorce rates within the older population are rising. Dang! Based on historical research, Statistics Canada projected the life expectancy for the Canadian population in 2017 to be 79 years for men and 83 years for women. I have no idea if their projections were accurate, however, we know that people are living a heck of… Read more »
Living Accountably: The Unkept Secret To Relationship Success
How does your level of accountability affect your relationship with your partner? The video below will give you pointed points to ponder. So……… Accountability. On a scale of 1 to 10 where would you place yourself, with 1 being not accoutable at all. Life happens to you and there is nothing you can do about… Read more »
Just Because I Don’t Know The Plan, Doesn’t Mean There Isn’t One
I just finished re-reading ‘The Power of TED’ by David Emerald and am pondering where I consistently jump into the Dreaded Drama Triangle. If you’re not familiar with the Drama Triangle, I invite you to get the book and read it. The Triangle consists of 3 positions we play in our self-created dramas: Victim, Persecutor,… Read more »
Your Relationship: Is It Functional, Adaptable, or Sustainable?
Life, as we experience it now, is functional, adaptable, or sustainable. In other words, our society produces what we need to function – food, shelter, clothing, and all the things we need to survive. At an unconscious level, we only want peace and happiness, yet these basics just don’t cut it. That’s a problem. So,… Read more »
2 X 2 Couple’s Retreat: 10 Reasons to do it
Where we live out in the “sticks,” most of us have a 4 X 4 truck. For us, it’s a no-brainer – for stability, safety, flexibility, and power. Our 4 X 4 keeps us solidly on the road, regardless of the conditions. When consciously attending to conditions, we travel safely and get where we’re going. … Read more »
7 Steps to Fight Fairly: aka Reframe the Fight to Make it Right
Does the relationship game need to include fighting, battling, and arguing? Those aren’t great ways to build trust. As coaches, we regularly receive inquiries such as (taken directly from emails): “We need to learn to fight fair.” “We’re struggling with the battles.” “How can we fight and get the best outcome?” A phrase rushes through… Read more »
How Does Neuroscience Affect Your Relationships?
What is the most foundational component that affects your relationships? Trust. Yeah, I’ve written many times before about it and it is equally important now. Trust is the foundation for every relationship, in every area of your life, including your relationship with yourself. The only way to create a more satisfying, fun, fulfilling, and successful… Read more »
