Divorce rates within the older population are rising. Dang! Based on historical research, Statistics Canada projected the life expectancy for the Canadian population in 2017 to be 79 years for men and 83 years for women. I have no idea if their projections were accurate, however, we know that people are living a heck of… Read more »
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Living Accountably: The Unkept Secret To Relationship Success
How does your level of accountability affect your relationship with your partner? The video below will give you pointed points to ponder. So……… Accountability. On a scale of 1 to 10 where would you place yourself, with 1 being not accoutable at all. Life happens to you and there is nothing you can do about… Read more »
How Do You Show Your Love?
What do you mean, “How do you show your love?” Weird question, isn’t it? This may seem like a total exaggeration, but I invite you to ponder this. Many people (me included) get wrapped up in life – busy with work schedules, kids’ sports, family get-togethers, volunteer activities, TV, computer, and a variety of other… Read more »
Chronic Complaints: After 3 times, lay that sucker out
You might know the routine. Out of genuine care and concern for your partner you ask, “How was your day?” The response goes something like this, “Oh, you can’t believe what a crappy day it was……… (on and on and on, gag, gag, adnosium).” Too often, replaying these stories, and telling them over and over only… Read more »
What You Were Told As A Kid Doesn’t Work: The Art & Science of Word Use
Remember the ditty, “Sticks and stones can break my bones, but words can never hurt me”? Totally ridiculous, wasn’t it? The phrase would supposedly protect us from verbal attacks on the playground at school. If you think about the flip-side of the phrase, it means it’s OK for the bully to use verbal attacks. After… Read more »
Your Relationship: Is It Functional, Adaptable, or Sustainable?
Life, as we experience it now, is functional, adaptable, or sustainable. In other words, our society produces what we need to function – food, shelter, clothing, and all the things we need to survive. At an unconscious level, we only want peace and happiness, yet these basics just don’t cut it. That’s a problem. So,… Read more »
A Single Word Can Muck Up Your Relationship: a need for awareness and honesty
When coaching with couples, we usually ask if they know their partner’s hot buttons – words, a look, an expression that sends the partner into defensiveness, anger, withholding, or running. The answer is always “yes.” A really simple way to improve your relationship is to stop pushing those buttons. Easier said than done. As well… Read more »
Garage Sale Unwanted Stuff & Behaviour
Ever had a garage sale? Yes, we know there are some things that are tough to get rid of. Eventually, you just breath and let it go. It works the same way with behaviour you have that doesn’t serve a purpose anymore. Eventually, you just breath and let it go. Check out this great video,… Read more »
The Rotary Four-Way Test: It Affects Your Marriage And All Relationships
Recently we were visiting with Connie and Bernie. This couple have done the conscious and consistent work to transform their relationship whereby they now strive to work together to bring out each other’s wonderfulness. They gave us a small medallion which they use to remind themselves to keep working together for the betterment of themselves,… Read more »
2 X 2 Couple’s Retreat: 10 Reasons to do it
Where we live out in the “sticks,” most of us have a 4 X 4 truck. For us, it’s a no-brainer – for stability, safety, flexibility, and power. Our 4 X 4 keeps us solidly on the road, regardless of the conditions. When consciously attending to conditions, we travel safely and get where we’re going. … Read more »
