A story from long time ago when anger was not my ally. I wish I’d have known how to deal effectively with anger. It was a teenage party at a public campground. Joking and laughing around a campfire. My best friend, Tim, dropped his empty beer bottle on the ground and stomped on it, breaking… Read more »
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Commitment To Your Relationship: Close The Escape Hatch – NOW
I invite you to be totally honest with yourself. On a scale from 1 to 10, what is your commitment to your relationship now – to make it thrive, no matter what (1 means not committed at all, and 10 means totally in)? My perception from watching what happens with couples in society, and with… Read more »
How Do You Add Fun To Your Relationship?
“Fun in your relationship? What d’ya mean?” I thought that was an interesting response to my question during a coaching session. It is so important to keep some spice, spontaneity, and pizzazz alive – so it doesn’t get boring. It also makes it easier to focus on what’s strong; rather than what’s wrong. What are… Read more »
Asking vs. Telling – An Un-kept Secret
“Why doesn’t she understand? I told her how.” “It’s his own fault that happened. I told him what he should do.” “I told her and told her and told her and she still doesn’t do it right.” Whether I’m working with business teams or couples, I regularly hear these comments. Results clearly show they do… Read more »
Hearing Aids Don’t Mean I Understand You
Just because I hear, it doesn’t mean I understand. Have you had that experience? Insight: After countless experiences of having to ask, ”I beg your pardon?” or “Could you please repeat that?” or simply, “Huh?”, I finally got hearing aids. Other than marriage to Carol, this is one of the best decisions I’ve made. Or… Read more »
What is Success in Your Relationship?
How do you define success in your relationship? How does your partner define it? Have you had that conversation? To create greater success in your relationship, and to give yourselves time and space to talk about it, we invite you to consider attending the Rocky Mountain Couples Retreate on March 6 – 8, 2020, at… Read more »
The Nasty Intention/Impact Gap: 7 Tips For Resolve
I once read, “We value ourselves by our intentions. Others value us by our impact.” Hmmm? It’s the gap between that often causes challenges, isn’t it? Example: Recently, Carol and I were debriefing after a couples coaching session – a lively celebratory dialogue. Carol began to apologize for her interjection into the flow of the… Read more »
What Small Things Positively Affect Your Relationship?
Are you looking for a silver bullet? Something that will fix your relationship right now, or yesterday? Relationships are much like business. Overnight success takes 10 or 20 years. What seemingly small things do you do everyday (or regularly) that work for you? Please share them in the comments section so we can have a… Read more »
Forgiveness: The only real job you and I have
Forgiveness is art and a science. Art because it takes creativity. Science because if stimulates physiological and neurological healing and change. That aside, I believe in my deepest core that forgiveness is the most important and meaningful task you and I have in our lives. Why? Forgive is for-giving love I’m not a religious guy. … Read more »
Curiosity: One Skill That Will Save Your Marriage
You may be thinking, “How can curiosity save a marriage?” BINGO. Just that one question can kick the pre-frontal cortex of your brain into gear to find better answers and solutions to any challenge you may face in your relationship. The challenge is that most of us have not been trained to ask good questions. … Read more »
