Yup, you likely know there are two parts of your mind that direct your thoughts, words, and behaviour: Ego or Spirit. If you’re like me and most other people, you’ve had times (maybe lots of them) when you reacted to a situation with your sweetie, said something, and then almost instantly wished like heck you… Read more »
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6 Tips To Expand The Love and Reduce Conflict
In the 20+ years Carol and I have been working with couples, we’ve not yet had a couple come to us saying, “We have an incredible relationship, filled with love, joy, happiness, and contentment. We want to expand the love even more.” We’ve not had that – yet. Maybe you and your partner will be… Read more »
Celebrate The Great Things
Sh….. happens!! It is too easy to focus on that, rather than to celebrate the great things. Every couple we coach has, and is, doing simple daily things that allow them to exist and usually thrive. By taking time to acknowledge and celebrate those things, the less-than stuff becomes less important, or falls away. Now,… Read more »
Vulnerability Is A Life Foundation
Until you have practiced with vulnerability, it can be dang uncomfortable. Yet vulnerability is a life foundation – a key to experiencing long-term joy, happiness, and fulfillment in your relationship. Brene Brown describes the challenge and the rewards in this TED Talk. It is 20 minutes well worth your time. What, specifically, are you going… Read more »
Do I Want To Be Right? Or Happy?
Those are loaded questions, aren’t they. Do I want to be right? Or happy? We regularly find ourselves in situations of defensiveness (with a heavy dose of ego attachment) where we forget to remind ourselves of these questions. Does it happen to you? If you say, “no”, I’m guessing you spoof about other things too. This… Read more »
Weathering The Storms In Your Relationship
If you’ve been in your relationship for more than a few weeks, you’ll know that it is not always “sunny days.” Like the weather, there are storms in your relationship. For long-term success, it is critical to have plans, systems, and strategies to move through the storms calmly, kindly, and respectfully with your long-term vision… Read more »
Desire To Engage
Dang it used to frustrate me when I’d do something to Carol (a touch, a kiss, a few words) because I had a desire to engage in an interaction, and it would be ignored or missed. That was mostly years ago, yet still happens now and then. I also know there have been many times… Read more »
Give Change A Chance
Right now, we ponder, “what do we need if we must evacuate” (wildfires a few miles away). I’m reminded of the power of our relationship. When we are strong together, we can adapt, support ourselves and others, and definitely give change (and love) a chance. Life is an experiment. Some experiments give us the results… Read more »
Utilize Strengths In Your Relationship
I bet you are really good at some things, aren’t you? I also bet your partner is really good at some things. However, how often do you consciously and intentionally plan to utilize strengths in your relationship, so you create even more of the amazing experiences and results that you both want? We invite you… Read more »
How Do I Hold My Partner Accountable?
When coaching with couples, we get asked this question regularly, “How do I hold my partner accountable for what they said they would do?” It is a great question. Join us to explore some perspectives. I can’t hold my partner accountable, and neither can you. With that in your mind and heart, what specifically are… Read more »
