Category: Personal Relationships

2 X 2 Couple’s Retreat: 10 Reasons to do it #2

Where we live out in the “sticks,” most of us have a 4 X 4 truck.  For us, it’s a no-brainer – for stability, safety, flexibility, and power. Our 4 X 4 keeps us solidly on the road, regardless of the conditions.  When consciously attending to conditions, we travel safely and get where we’re going. … Read more »

3 Steps For Better Feelings

“How’s it going, Aly?” With a tender, loving smile, and a glint in his eyes he said, “It’s a tough climb – but damn good footin’.” Aly was a stocky, elderly cowboy, about five feet tall.  Gold, wire-rimmed glasses perched on his short, broad nose.  His face was tanned and weathered.  On his round, bald… Read more »

Relationship Emergency Response Plan

Stuff happens in life – deaths, accidents, job loss, business failure, etc. It can put extra stress on your romantic relationship. Having a relationship emergency response plan established for what support looks like, sounds like, and feels like can minimize the stress and have both people feeling valued and cared for. It is not as… Read more »

Are You In The Ready Position?

Ready position? Yup. Here are the simple steps. Be present. Surrender to what is. Breathe. Be aware of your feelings. Be OK with whatever happens (without attachment). Awe heck, you’ll need to listen to this to understand what I mean. How can you apply the idea of having no expectations, yet being prepared for anything?… Read more »

The Joy Of Mediocrity

We strive for perfection (or at least excellence), so what’s this deal about the joy of mediocrity? If you are even a little bit like us (and most of the couples and individuals we coach), we can be incredibly hard on ourselves and each other when we don’t meet our own, or our partners expectations…. Read more »

Celebration: The Pause That Refreshes

Individually or as a couple, celebration is the pause that refreshes, when you make it a priority. Make it a priority? Oohh that’s the challenging part that requires attention, intention, and a wee bit of time to communicate about it. Until celebration becomes habitual, you might even need to schedule it. At least that’s our… Read more »

Punishment By Love – again

Weird title, isn’t it? My friend, Darrel, shared a story about a nomadic community in Africa.  I have no research or documentation to show validity.  Regardless, the story has a powerful lesson about punishment by love.  In many circles, this community would be labelled uncivilized.  They live in a harsh environment, hunting and gathering much… Read more »

Sharing Love

High quality relationships are critical for happiness. There are many easy ways to keep the connection with others, so important people in your life feel loved. Yes, all it takes is being conscious about sharing love. Closer to home, in your relationship with your sweetie, it is about doing what you can so he/she chooses… Read more »

Simple Things For Relationship Success

I believe we all know what it takes to have our relationship with our spouse/partner thrive. Yet, it is usually these simple things for relationship success that we forget to apply. It is one of those choices we make, consciously or unconsciously. With all of that said, what specifically are you and your sweetie going… Read more »

Seasons Of Relationships

As I look out the window at the snow piling up on the branches of the spruce trees, I realize winter has hit. In the past, I’ve had similar realizations about my relationship with Carol. There are seasons of relationships, each one with powerful learnings. The challenge is for you and I to be aware… Read more »