Category: Personal Growth

Embracing Sexual Intimacy

Sure, you may tease, or flirt, or joke about sex – or a lack of. Yet, the conversations about sexual intimacy, which is much deeper and more meaningful, may be a taboo subject in your relationship. You may dance around it, yet not really focus on embracing your sexual intimacy. Regardless of the quality of… Read more »

3 Steps For Better Feelings

“How’s it going, Aly?” With a tender, loving smile, and a glint in his eyes he said, “It’s a tough climb – but damn good footin’.” Aly was a stocky, elderly cowboy, about five feet tall.  Gold, wire-rimmed glasses perched on his short, broad nose.  His face was tanned and weathered.  On his round, bald… Read more »

Are You In The Ready Position?

Ready position? Yup. Here are the simple steps. Be present. Surrender to what is. Breathe. Be aware of your feelings. Be OK with whatever happens (without attachment). Awe heck, you’ll need to listen to this to understand what I mean. How can you apply the idea of having no expectations, yet being prepared for anything?… Read more »

What Is Happiness?

It seems most people strive for it, but what is happiness? We’re not meaning the fleeting happiness based on something or someone else. We’re meaning the deep, lasting, authentic, and real experience that is inside. What is happiness to you? More importantly, what specific things do you think, say, and do every day that allows… Read more »

The Joy Of Mediocrity

We strive for perfection (or at least excellence), so what’s this deal about the joy of mediocrity? If you are even a little bit like us (and most of the couples and individuals we coach), we can be incredibly hard on ourselves and each other when we don’t meet our own, or our partners expectations…. Read more »

Punishment By Love – again

Weird title, isn’t it? My friend, Darrel, shared a story about a nomadic community in Africa.  I have no research or documentation to show validity.  Regardless, the story has a powerful lesson about punishment by love.  In many circles, this community would be labelled uncivilized.  They live in a harsh environment, hunting and gathering much… Read more »

Sharing Love

High quality relationships are critical for happiness. There are many easy ways to keep the connection with others, so important people in your life feel loved. Yes, all it takes is being conscious about sharing love. Closer to home, in your relationship with your sweetie, it is about doing what you can so he/she chooses… Read more »

Selfish Or Self-full? A Reframe That Counts

Selfish or self-full? How often do you think or say the word “selfish”? If you look deeper, what is that judgement of others, or of yourself about? More importantly, what would it take for you to make a conscious reframe of the word to “self-full” and to behave accordingly? Imagine… Imagine a world where we… Read more »

Seasons Of Relationships

As I look out the window at the snow piling up on the branches of the spruce trees, I realize winter has hit. In the past, I’ve had similar realizations about my relationship with Carol. There are seasons of relationships, each one with powerful learnings. The challenge is for you and I to be aware… Read more »

Choice, The Ultimate Empowerment Tool

Everyday, you and I make a lot of choices – sometimes unconsciously. For each one, we get a result which affects how we feel. In these unsettling times in our world, I believe you and I need to become very conscious and intentional about choice, the ultimate empowerment tool. I also believe you and I… Read more »