Category: Professional Relationships

No With Grace

The word, “No” with grace can be a powerful tool to have in your toolbox. It is a chance to check in with your true desires and values. Rather than giving yourself away to others’ needs or wants, it enhances the relationship with self, your partner, and others. You can say No with grace to… Read more »

The Joy Of Mediocrity

We strive for perfection (or at least excellence), so what’s this deal about the joy of mediocrity? If you are even a little bit like us (and most of the couples and individuals we coach), we can be incredibly hard on ourselves and each other when we don’t meet our own, or our partners expectations…. Read more »

The Power Of I AM

We speak as a way to communicate with others. We also speak to ourselves in our thoughts (if you’re like me, there are many more conversations with myself than with others). Often we use the words, “I am” followed by some description of who we are, which may not be what we really want for… Read more »

Coaching? What Is It?

Want to know what coaching is, and what it can do for you? May 17 – 21, 2021 is International Coaching Week. What coaching is? More than anything, it’s an opportunity to learn about you. In that exploration, you can learn how coaching can support you to create your life the way you want it… Read more »

Asking vs Telling: 4 steps for success

Whether I’m working with people in their business or with couples in their relationship, I hear comments regularly that indicate that asking vs telling is an unkept secret for business and relationship success.  Comments such as: “Why doesn’t she understand?  I told her how.” “It’s his own fault because I told him what he needed… Read more »

3 Steps To Apologize Effectively

Can a dude born in 1706 teach us the 3 steps to apologize effectively? I don’t know what this guy knew about a primary relationship. Yet, good ol’ Ben Franklin was esteemed for his ability to communicate well. Let’s take what he said and give you our always-work (aka: never-fail) steps for apologies. We’re assuming… Read more »

Goals vs Intentions: Dealing with the New Year reality hit

January is almost gone. What has happened for you regarding your goals and plans for this year? Or more importantly, who are you being each day based on your intentions? Hmmm – goals vs intentions. I believe there are some misunderstandings about intentions and how they relate to goals and plans.  That’s why there are… Read more »

The Past, Future, and NOW: prioritizing what’s most important

What were some of your most important learnings from last year, and commitments for this year? Did they have anything to do with prioritizing what’s most important? We’ve lost “normalicy” and gained greater awareness of how we want to show up in life every day. It’s not the doingness but the beingness that helps us… Read more »

Emotional Awareness: A life-changer

Emotional awareness?  Or more specifically, what are you feeling right now? You may be thinking, “It doesn’t really matter what I’m feeling.  It’s what I’m doing that is most important.” I believe most of us experience life backwards.  We do activities, experience situations, hear conversations, and allow those things to “make” us feel whatever we’re… Read more »

Conflict In Our Relationship? It’s A Good Thing

You might be thinking, “No, Dan, conflict is NOT a good thing.  We don’t want conflict in our relationship.  Conflict is hard work and it tears us apart.” I understand. Whether we’re coaching with a couple, I’m coaching with an executive, or in Communication Excellence training with a corporate team, reducing conflict is often one… Read more »