Category: Marriage Help

Your Jigsaw Puzzle Of Life?

What would be different in your approach if you experienced everyday as part of your jigsaw puzzle of life? Would you be inquisitive or forceful? Curious or directive? Present or distracted? There is no right or wrong, yet the metaphor of a jigsaw puzzle of life can help shift how we interact with ourselves, our… Read more »

The Power Between – Change Zone

The quality of relationships change. So why not make the changes to your relationship intentionally and consciously by your design?  To do that takes recognition of the Power Between, rather than power over. Our dear friends, Gail McDonald and Susan Sneath invited us to join them on their show to explore this. OK.  What specific… Read more »

Gratitude Rituals

Having gratitude rituals can be a super easy way to enhance your relationship. You and I can start this right now, if we choose. Sure, you are busy, yet this doesn’t need to take any additional time.  In fact, it is a time-creator, because it will minimize the time you spend in frustration, anger, arguments,… Read more »

Are You Trigger Happy?

By relationship trigger, we are not referring to hunting or the use of a firearm.  We are referring to a weapon we all use occasionally to hurt our partner, or at least to evoke a negative emotion and reaction. The relationship trigger is the words, the tone of voice, and often the body language. You… Read more »

Fun Takes Work – But Not Much

How much fun do you have as a couple?  We invite you to be honest with yourself.  The point is that couples fun takes work. That said, it is not hard work.  It can be enjoyable work. It doesn’t have to be much work.  It does take one (or both) people being conscious, and making… Read more »

The Conflict Starts Within

Does this sound familiar?  Something happens and “Wham”, you are in conflict. It’s weird how quickly this occurs. However, if you and I look closer, we’ll find that the conflict starts within. We’ve shared about the Dreaded Drama Triangle before, yet this podcast takes a deeper inner look. If this conflict within is a regular… Read more »

Decision-making Made Easy

Dang, we’ve had some nasty arguments when it comes to decision-making. Have you? Here’s the truth, plain and simple. Making the decision based on my logic is right … which means that Carol’s thoughts and feelings are wrong. I’ll bet you can guess what Carol has to say about that. Or to avoid conflict, we… Read more »

Is It Time for Self-Love For You?

OK, you’re saying, “Self Love? C’mon, Dan. What d’ya mean by time for self-love?” Maybe we could just call it self-care. The most important question is this, “What does self-love have to do with your intimate relationship?” It ties in really well with our ‘Heart of Relationships‘ model. But now, check out this quick video…. Read more »

Confidentiality Builds Trust

If you and I were having a conversation about something quite personal in my life, would you then talk to others about it? Your answer indicates that confidentiality builds trust. Your answer was likely “no”, yet how often to do and your life partner have a conversation that then gets spread to your friends, family,… Read more »

No With Grace

The word, “No” with grace can be a powerful tool to have in your toolbox. It is a chance to check in with your true desires and values. Rather than giving yourself away to others’ needs or wants, it enhances the relationship with self, your partner, and others. You can say No with grace to… Read more »