Tag: relationship coaching

Ego or Spirit: Which Do You Employ?

Yup, you likely know there are two parts of your mind that direct your thoughts, words, and behaviour: Ego or Spirit. If you’re like me and most other people, you’ve had times (maybe lots of them) when you reacted to a situation with your sweetie, said something, and then almost instantly wished like heck you… Read more »

6 Tips To Expand The Love: & reduce conflict

In the 20+ years Carol and I have been working with couples, we’ve not yet had a couple come to us saying, “We have an incredible relationship, filled with love, joy, happiness, and contentment. We want to expand the love even more.”  We’ve not had that – yet.  Maybe you and your partner will be… Read more »

Celebrate The Great Things

Sh….. happens!!  It is too easy to focus on that, rather than to celebrate the great things.  Every couple we coach has, and is, doing simple daily things that allow them to exist and usually thrive.  By taking time to acknowledge and celebrate those things, the less-than stuff becomes less important, or falls away. Now,… Read more »

Mentoring Magic – Secret Shared By Others

Life is about Relationships, yet those are tough to navigate on our own.  A tool we call Mentoring Magic can help you (and me) to ask questions, listen, and learn what works – and what does not. Ultimately, you get to choose what to apply and what to set aside. As with all things in… Read more »

Desire To Engage

Dang it used to frustrate me when I’d do something to Carol (a touch, a kiss, a few words) because I had a desire to engage in an interaction, and it would be ignored or missed.  That was mostly years ago, yet still happens now and then. I also know there have been many times… Read more »

Give Change A Chance

Right now, we ponder, “what do we need if we must evacuate” (wildfires a few miles away).  I’m reminded of the power of our relationship. When we are strong together, we can adapt, support ourselves and others, and definitely give change (and love) a chance. Life is an experiment. Some experiments give us the results… Read more »

Utilize Strengths In Your Relationship

I bet you are really good at some things, aren’t you? I also bet your partner is really good at some things. However, how often do you consciously and intentionally plan to utilize strengths in your relationship, so you create even more of the amazing experiences and results that you both want? We invite you… Read more »

How Do I Hold My Partner Accountable?

When coaching with couples, we get asked this question regularly, “How do I hold my partner accountable for what they said they would do?” It is a great question. Join us to explore some perspectives. I can’t hold my partner accountable, and neither can you.  With that in your mind and heart, what specifically are… Read more »

The Power Between – Change Zone

The quality of relationships change. So why not make the changes to your relationship intentionally and consciously by your design?  To do that takes recognition of the Power Between, rather than power over. Our dear friends, Gail McDonald and Susan Sneath invited us to join them on their show to explore this. OK.  What specific… Read more »

Are You Trigger Happy?

By relationship trigger, we are not referring to hunting or the use of a firearm.  We are referring to a weapon we all use occasionally to hurt our partner, or at least to evoke a negative emotion and reaction. The relationship trigger is the words, the tone of voice, and often the body language. You… Read more »