Tag: relationship coaching

The Power Between – Change Zone

The quality of relationships change. So why not make the changes to your relationship intentionally and consciously by your design?  To do that takes recognition of the Power Between, rather than power over. Our dear friends, Gail McDonald and Susan Sneath invited us to join them on their show to explore this. OK.  What specific… Read more »

Are You Trigger Happy?

By relationship trigger, we are not referring to hunting or the use of a firearm.  We are referring to a weapon we all use occasionally to hurt our partner, or at least to evoke a negative emotion and reaction. The relationship trigger is the words, the tone of voice, and often the body language. You… Read more »

The Choice To Receive

Many of us have been indoctrinated from a young age to believe it is better to give than to receive. Carol and I have learned that the choice to receive is actually a huge gift we offer others. They feel valued, accepted, and loved. Isn’t that part of what most of us strive to do?… Read more »

Is It Time for Self-Love For You?

OK, you’re saying, “Self Love? C’mon, Dan. What d’ya mean by time for self-love?” Maybe we could just call it self-care. The most important question is this, “What does self-love have to do with your intimate relationship?” It ties in really well with our ‘Heart of Relationships‘ model. But now, check out this quick video…. Read more »

2 X 2 Couple’s Retreat: 10 Reasons to do it #2

Where we live out in the “sticks,” most of us have a 4 X 4 truck.  For us, it’s a no-brainer – for stability, safety, flexibility, and power. Our 4 X 4 keeps us solidly on the road, regardless of the conditions.  When consciously attending to conditions, we travel safely and get where we’re going. … Read more »

Are You In The Ready Position?

Ready position? Yup. Here are the simple steps. Be present. Surrender to what is. Breathe. Be aware of your feelings. Be OK with whatever happens (without attachment). Awe heck, you’ll need to listen to this to understand what I mean. How can you apply the idea of having no expectations, yet being prepared for anything?… Read more »

Punishment By Love – again

Weird title, isn’t it? My friend, Darrel, shared a story about a nomadic community in Africa.  I have no research or documentation to show validity.  Regardless, the story has a powerful lesson about punishment by love.  In many circles, this community would be labelled uncivilized.  They live in a harsh environment, hunting and gathering much… Read more »

Selfish Or Self-full? A Reframe That Counts

Selfish or self-full? How often do you think or say the word “selfish”? If you look deeper, what is that judgement of others, or of yourself about? More importantly, what would it take for you to make a conscious reframe of the word to “self-full” and to behave accordingly? Imagine… Imagine a world where we… Read more »

Asking vs Telling: 4 steps for success

Whether I’m working with people in their business or with couples in their relationship, I hear comments regularly that indicate that asking vs telling is an unkept secret for business and relationship success.  Comments such as: “Why doesn’t she understand?  I told her how.” “It’s his own fault because I told him what he needed… Read more »

Commitment To Your Relationship: Close The Escape Hatch – NOW

I invite you to be totally honest with yourself.  On a scale from 1 to 10, what is your commitment to your relationship now – to make it thrive, no matter what (1 means not committed at all, and 10 means totally in)? My perception from watching what happens with couples in society, and with… Read more »