Those are loaded questions, aren’t they. Do I want to be right? Or happy? We regularly find ourselves in situations of defensiveness (with a heavy dose of ego attachment) where we forget to remind ourselves of these questions. Does it happen to you? If you say, “no”, I’m guessing you spoof about other things too. This… Read more »
Tag: Conflict Resolution
Weathering The Storms In Your Relationship
If you’ve been in your relationship for more than a few weeks, you’ll know that it is not always “sunny days.” Like the weather, there are storms in your relationship. For long-term success, it is critical to have plans, systems, and strategies to move through the storms calmly, kindly, and respectfully with your long-term vision… Read more »
Are You Trigger Happy?
By relationship trigger, we are not referring to hunting or the use of a firearm. We are referring to a weapon we all use occasionally to hurt our partner, or at least to evoke a negative emotion and reaction. The relationship trigger is the words, the tone of voice, and often the body language. You… Read more »
2 X 2 Couple’s Retreat: 10 Reasons to do it #2
Where we live out in the “sticks,” most of us have a 4 X 4 truck. For us, it’s a no-brainer – for stability, safety, flexibility, and power. Our 4 X 4 keeps us solidly on the road, regardless of the conditions. When consciously attending to conditions, we travel safely and get where we’re going. … Read more »
Conflict In Our Relationship? It’s A Good Thing
You might be thinking, “No, Dan, conflict is NOT a good thing. We don’t want conflict in our relationship. Conflict is hard work and it tears us apart.” I understand. Whether we’re coaching with a couple, I’m coaching with an executive, or in Communication Excellence training with a corporate team, reducing conflict is often one… Read more »
Understanding Builds Trust
Intentionally seeking to understand another builds trust in the relationship. What are you doing about this? We’d love to hear from you. And come visit us and enjoy the location too.
It’s Perfect To Be Naturally Imperfect: Relationship lessons from a grocery store
On my way home from Edmonton, I stopped into a large grocery store to pick up some items. We mostly support our local businesses in Sangudo, so this was unusual for me. I was intrigued by a section of the produce department that was marketing “Naturally Imperfect” items. There was something about the attributes of… Read more »
The Nasty Intention/Impact Gap: 7 Tips For Resolve
I once read, “We value ourselves by our intentions. Others value us by our impact.” Hmmm? It’s the gap between that often causes challenges, isn’t it? Example: Recently, Carol and I were debriefing after a couples coaching session – a lively celebratory dialogue. Carol began to apologize for her interjection into the flow of the… Read more »
Forgiveness: The only real job you and I have
Forgiveness is art and a science. Art because it takes creativity. Science because if stimulates physiological and neurological healing and change. That aside, I believe in my deepest core that forgiveness is the most important and meaningful task you and I have in our lives. Why? Forgive is for-giving love I’m not a religious guy. … Read more »
Clarity Creates Confidence; Confusion Causes Chaos
I invite you to read the title one more time. I invite you to consider how clarity and confusion affect your relationship with your partner at home. Is the statement true for you? Carol and I attended a workshop which focused on creating an accountable workplace culture. Accountability expert, Greg Bustin, shared many gems, such… Read more »
