Those are loaded questions, aren’t they. Do I want to be right? Or happy? We regularly find ourselves in situations of defensiveness (with a heavy dose of ego attachment) where we forget to remind ourselves of these questions.
Does it happen to you? If you say, “no”, I’m guessing you spoof about other things too.
This video is from a few years ago. Yet as a result of recent coaching sessions and our own experiences, it seems now is a good time for the message again.
As a suggestion, here are 5 easy steps to minimize your want to be right:
- Be an observer of your feelings. Any time you feel a need to defend your ideas or opinions, stop where you are
- Ask your partner for a moment (or 2 or 5) to regroup your thoughts and feelings
- Take 2 or 3 deep breaths to allow your pre-fontal cortex to kick into gear
- Ponder this: “what do I really want in our relationship? How do I want us both to feel?”
- Enter back into the conversation with a view of creating the best possible outcome for all.
Simple? Not always. This article may give you perspectives too.
We invite you to leave a comment. We’d love to hear how this works for you.