Desire To Engage

Dang it used to frustrate me when I’d do something to Carol (a touch, a kiss, a few words) because I had a desire to engage in an interaction, and it would be ignored or missed.  That was mostly years ago, yet still happens now and then. I also know there have been many times… Read more »

Give Change A Chance

Right now, we ponder, “what do we need if we must evacuate” (wildfires a few miles away).  I’m reminded of the power of our relationship. When we are strong together, we can adapt, support ourselves and others, and definitely give change (and love) a chance. Life is an experiment. Some experiments give us the results… Read more »

Utilize Strengths In Your Relationship

I bet you are really good at some things, aren’t you? I also bet your partner is really good at some things. However, how often do you consciously and intentionally plan to utilize strengths in your relationship, so you create even more of the amazing experiences and results that you both want? We invite you… Read more »

How Do I Hold My Partner Accountable?

When coaching with couples, we get asked this question regularly, “How do I hold my partner accountable for what they said they would do?” It is a great question. Join us to explore some perspectives. I can’t hold my partner accountable, and neither can you.  With that in your mind and heart, what specifically are… Read more »

Your Jigsaw Puzzle Of Life?

What would be different in your approach if you experienced everyday as part of your jigsaw puzzle of life? Would you be inquisitive or forceful? Curious or directive? Present or distracted? There is no right or wrong, yet the metaphor of a jigsaw puzzle of life can help shift how we interact with ourselves, our… Read more »

The Power Between – Change Zone

The quality of relationships change. So why not make the changes to your relationship intentionally and consciously by your design?  To do that takes recognition of the Power Between, rather than power over. Our dear friends, Gail McDonald and Susan Sneath invited us to join them on their show to explore this. OK.  What specific… Read more »

Heart of Relationships: The bigger impact

If you’re a subscriber (and if you actually read/listen to these newsletters), you might recall us talking about the the Heart of Relationships.  Recently, we’ve become consciously aware of the bigger impact this model can have, in your personal life, as a couple and family, in your workplace, community, society and in the bigger world…. Read more »

Gratitude Rituals

Having gratitude rituals can be a super easy way to enhance your relationship. You and I can start this right now, if we choose. Sure, you are busy, yet this doesn’t need to take any additional time.  In fact, it is a time-creator, because it will minimize the time you spend in frustration, anger, arguments,… Read more »

Are You Trigger Happy?

By relationship trigger, we are not referring to hunting or the use of a firearm.  We are referring to a weapon we all use occasionally to hurt our partner, or at least to evoke a negative emotion and reaction. The relationship trigger is the words, the tone of voice, and often the body language. You… Read more »