The Joy Of Mediocrity

We strive for perfection (or at least excellence), so what’s this deal about the joy of mediocrity? If you are even a little bit like us (and most of the couples and individuals we coach), we can be incredibly hard on ourselves and each other when we don’t meet our own, or our partners expectations…. Read more »

Celebration: The Pause That Refreshes

Individually or as a couple, celebration is the pause that refreshes, when you make it a priority. Make it a priority? Oohh that’s the challenging part that requires attention, intention, and a wee bit of time to communicate about it. Until celebration becomes habitual, you might even need to schedule it. At least that’s our… Read more »

Punishment By Love – again

Weird title, isn’t it? My friend, Darrel, shared a story about a nomadic community in Africa.  I have no research or documentation to show validity.  Regardless, the story has a powerful lesson about punishment by love.  In many circles, this community would be labelled uncivilized.  They live in a harsh environment, hunting and gathering much… Read more »

Sharing Love

High quality relationships are critical for happiness. There are many easy ways to keep the connection with others, so important people in your life feel loved. Yes, all it takes is being conscious about sharing love. Closer to home, in your relationship with your sweetie, it is about doing what you can so he/she chooses… Read more »

Selfish Or Self-full? A Reframe That Counts

Selfish or self-full? How often do you think or say the word “selfish”? If you look deeper, what is that judgement of others, or of yourself about? More importantly, what would it take for you to make a conscious reframe of the word to “self-full” and to behave accordingly? Imagine… Imagine a world where we… Read more »

Simple Things For Relationship Success

I believe we all know what it takes to have our relationship with our spouse/partner thrive. Yet, it is usually these simple things for relationship success that we forget to apply. It is one of those choices we make, consciously or unconsciously. With all of that said, what specifically are you and your sweetie going… Read more »

Seasons Of Relationships

As I look out the window at the snow piling up on the branches of the spruce trees, I realize winter has hit. In the past, I’ve had similar realizations about my relationship with Carol. There are seasons of relationships, each one with powerful learnings. The challenge is for you and I to be aware… Read more »

Choice, The Ultimate Empowerment Tool

Everyday, you and I make a lot of choices – sometimes unconsciously. For each one, we get a result which affects how we feel. In these unsettling times in our world, I believe you and I need to become very conscious and intentional about choice, the ultimate empowerment tool. I also believe you and I… Read more »

Rituals In Your Relationship

Consciously (or not), you have established rituals in your relationship. Communicating about, and intentionally planning regular rituals will greatly enhance the quality of your relationship with yourself and your spouse/partner. Or, you can just accept whatever comes along be default. You probably know what happens then. For us, we know from experience the resulting feelings… Read more »

Are You Wasting Time?

Are you wasting time in “not-love” experiences in your relationship? Wasting it in anger, fear, resentment, guilt, shame, blame, doubt, hurt, etc. What result is this giving you? How long, specifically, are you going to continue? That hurts, doesn’t it? Yet it is a good reminder to consider now. Do the math if you like…. Read more »