Whether I’m working with people in their business or with couples in their relationship, I hear comments regularly that indicate that asking vs telling is an unkept secret for business and relationship success. Comments such as: “Why doesn’t she understand? I told her how.” “It’s his own fault because I told him what he needed… Read more »
Category: Personal Growth
Fear Always Divides
Yes, it is true, “fear always divides.” Just look around. People are afraid to be close to each other, afraid to hug, afraid to visit family and friends, afraid to sneeze in a public place, afraid to drive or fly, etc. Fear disconnects people in a time when we need connection more than ever. We… Read more »
3 Steps To Apologize Effectively
Can a dude born in 1706 teach us the 3 steps to apologize effectively? I don’t know what this guy knew about a primary relationship. Yet, good ol’ Ben Franklin was esteemed for his ability to communicate well. Let’s take what he said and give you our always-work (aka: never-fail) steps for apologies. We’re assuming… Read more »
Must Be Present To Win
Imagine this. It’s half-time intermission at the football game. You’ve purchased your 50/50 ticket and the announcer says, “The winning ticket will be drawn at the end of the game. You must be present to win.” That is an incredible metaphor for any relationship. What does it mean to you to “win” in your relationship?… Read more »
Goals vs Intentions: Dealing with the New Year reality hit
January is almost gone. What has happened for you regarding your goals and plans for this year? Or more importantly, who are you being each day based on your intentions? Hmmm – goals vs intentions. I believe there are some misunderstandings about intentions and how they relate to goals and plans. That’s why there are… Read more »
The Past, Future, and NOW: prioritizing what’s most important
What were some of your most important learnings from last year, and commitments for this year? Did they have anything to do with prioritizing what’s most important? We’ve lost “normalicy” and gained greater awareness of how we want to show up in life every day. It’s not the doingness but the beingness that helps us… Read more »
Antidote To The Drama Cycle
In the last podcast, we talked about the Dreaded Drama Triangle (DDT), as described by Stephen Karmpan. If you are like me, and all the people I know, you’ve been in the drama cycle. But the question is always, “How do we get out of it?” This episode will give you deeper understanding and some… Read more »
Be Interested Rather Than Invested?
In some of our previous podcasts, you might have noticed the theme of “be interested rather than invested” when it comes to communication, however not specifically in those words. This is a bit more overt – ‘cause it just happened. I woke up and immediately noticed that something was different. As I re-entered consciousness from the… Read more »
Drama & Conflict In Your Relationship?
OK, be honest with us. Do you ever experience conflict, and what seems to be exessive drama in your relationship? We do too. It’s a normal occurence to be victimized and get caught in the drama of life. That doesn’t mean it is healthy to allow it to pollute your relationship and make your life… Read more »
Bring Back That Lovin’ Feeling
Although the Righteous Brothers song was titled, “You’ve Lost That Loving Feeling”, I’d rather use the lyrics toward the end of the song, “Bring Back That Lovin’ Feeling.” I find it a bit more hopeful. For every couple with whom we coach, they know what the loving feeling is. Yes, they can describe it in… Read more »
