Sh….. happens!! It is too easy to focus on that, rather than to celebrate the great things. Every couple we coach has, and is, doing simple daily things that allow them to exist and usually thrive. By taking time to acknowledge and celebrate those things, the less-than stuff becomes less important, or falls away. Now,… Read more »
Tag: communication skills
Vulnerability Is A Life Foundation
Until you have practiced with vulnerability, it can be dang uncomfortable. Yet vulnerability is a life foundation – a key to experiencing long-term joy, happiness, and fulfillment in your relationship. Brene Brown describes the challenge and the rewards in this TED Talk. It is 20 minutes well worth your time. What, specifically, are you going… Read more »
Do I Want To Be Right? Or Happy?
Those are loaded questions, aren’t they. Do I want to be right? Or happy? We regularly find ourselves in situations of defensiveness (with a heavy dose of ego attachment) where we forget to remind ourselves of these questions. Does it happen to you? If you say, “no”, I’m guessing you spoof about other things too. This… Read more »
Give Change A Chance
Right now, we ponder, “what do we need if we must evacuate” (wildfires a few miles away). I’m reminded of the power of our relationship. When we are strong together, we can adapt, support ourselves and others, and definitely give change (and love) a chance. Life is an experiment. Some experiments give us the results… Read more »
How Do I Hold My Partner Accountable?
When coaching with couples, we get asked this question regularly, “How do I hold my partner accountable for what they said they would do?” It is a great question. Join us to explore some perspectives. I can’t hold my partner accountable, and neither can you. With that in your mind and heart, what specifically are… Read more »
The Power Between – Change Zone
The quality of relationships change. So why not make the changes to your relationship intentionally and consciously by your design? To do that takes recognition of the Power Between, rather than power over. Our dear friends, Gail McDonald and Susan Sneath invited us to join them on their show to explore this. OK. What specific… Read more »
No With Grace
The word, “No” with grace can be a powerful tool to have in your toolbox. It is a chance to check in with your true desires and values. Rather than giving yourself away to others’ needs or wants, it enhances the relationship with self, your partner, and others. You can say No with grace to… Read more »
2 X 2 Couple’s Retreat: 10 Reasons to do it #2
Where we live out in the “sticks,” most of us have a 4 X 4 truck. For us, it’s a no-brainer – for stability, safety, flexibility, and power. Our 4 X 4 keeps us solidly on the road, regardless of the conditions. When consciously attending to conditions, we travel safely and get where we’re going. … Read more »
Be Interested Rather Than Invested?
In some of our previous podcasts, you might have noticed the theme of “be interested rather than invested” when it comes to communication, however not specifically in those words. This is a bit more overt – ‘cause it just happened. I woke up and immediately noticed that something was different. As I re-entered consciousness from the… Read more »
Agreements & Dis-agreements: 6 Tips to eliminate confusion, unmet expectations, and anger
According to the Dictionary, an agreement is, “a negotiated arrangement between two parties as to a course of action.” That means a dis-agreement is the absence of an agreement. “Can you attend a Zoom meeting at 3:30 pm on Friday Oct. 2?” “Yes. Please send me an electronic invitation with the coordinates, and I’ll be… Read more »
