This morning, after my meditation, I was thinking about mindfulness. Yes, that sounds ridiculous. I started laughing at myself, too. “Thinking” and “mindfulness” are two totally different approaches. To be mindful about mindfulness is more appropriate.
One of my habits is to overthink a situation, which often has me in an “analysis paralysis” mode. I go around and around with the information, search for more data, dig into the past for similar situations, try to figure out how I feel about it, confuse myself, and sometimes don’t come up with a decision. Hmmm? No decision IS a decision – to do nothing, which usually doesn’t give me the results I want or expect.
Then I feel crappy, which leaves me starting the whole process again. It’s no wonder that I occasionally have a day where I feel as if I didn’t get anything done. This situation also affects the quality of my relationships, because most decisions (or non-decisions) affect others as well.
I’m curious. Does something similar happen for you?
Be mindful about mindfulness.
For me, mindfulness is a much more effective approach, when I remember to put myself into that state.
You might be thinking, “What do you mean, put yourself into that state? How?”
I define mindfulness as a state of being whereby I’m totally present and in-the-moment. It is a conscious awareness, and un-attached acceptance of my thoughts, feelings, and bodily functions as they are right now – un-attached, and without judgement.
I haven’t been able to maintain this state for long periods of time – yet. However, as I continue to practice, it gets easier and I’m able to be there longer.
Be mindful about mindfulness.
When I am in this state, I find the best answers pop into my mind without effort. Or I get flashes of alternatives to experiment with in my mind, which allows me to determine my best steps forward. There is no second guessing, or doubt or judgement or justification – just the clear answer.
When I’m in this mindful state, I also know that my decision is ecologically sound. In other words, it is most appropriate from the perspective of other stakeholders and my environment. When I trust in this, the quality of my relationships improve.
Be mindful about mindfulness.
Not so easy though. The challenges I’ve had are twofold:
- How to put and keep myself in this mindful state
- How to know the responses are coming from a mindful, love-full state
1. How to put and keep myself in this mindful state?
It is reasonably easy to put myself into mindfulness while meditating. Also, when I’m walking in the forest, hiking in the mountains, snowshoeing, or cross-country skiing, mindfulness washes through me effortlessly. I’ve been practicing this for many years.
But, during a conflicting dialogue or un-expected situation, mindfulness has been a challenge for me in the past. I’ve learned to imagine I can push a “freeze-frame” button, which has everything stop briefly. This allows me to take a couple deep, slow, cleansing breaths and clear my mind. When the action starts again, I’m calm, relaxed, and with a new in-the-moment view.
When I sense I’m slipping back into thinking in my brain, I take a couple deep breaths, and look up slightly above eye level to where dreams and visions are born in my mind.
Be mindful about mindfulness.
2. How to know the responses are coming from a mindful, love-full state?
If I’m not mindful, I see pictures which are extremely complex and confusing. I hear long, drawn-out justifications and explanations of all the things that need to be considered. These explanations are coming from my brain, not my mind. I have weird uncomfortable feelings in my gut, brain, and chest.
When I’m mindful and love-full, the pictures are clean, crisp, and simple. I see alternatives I hadn’t seen before. I hear short, concise directions, such as “Leave in 10 minutes.” Or “Go left here.” Or, “Yes.” When others are involved, I hear and accept their perspectives without judgement or assumptions. Feeling of peace, calm, confidence, and hope fill me. I am open to anything; and attached to nothing.
Be mindful about mindfulness.
As I ponder this, I realize how simple my life, and your life can be when we choose to be in a mindful state, even some of the time.
Be mindful about mindfulness.
What about you? What do you think about it (pun intended)?
